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Journal of Clinical and
Basic Psychosomatics Seeking common ground while reserving differences

psychological trauma that they still found difficult to “Look at how much better others performed,” to belittle
forgive (Participant 6, Participant 12). me; (iii) She was dishonest. She lied about not being
I reconciled with my parents. This doesn’t mean divorced from my father, even though I had seen their
that I’ve completely given up my views, but I now divorce certificate. Current satisfaction score with
understand that my father is constrained by his past mother: 80/100. Evaluations: (i) She is remarkable –
life experiences not being able to understand well raising and educating two children on her own is no
the thoughts of our contemporary youth. I still have easy feat; (ii) She is driven, working hard herself and
differences with him, but that no longer hinder my setting high standards for her children, pushing us to
growth. (Participant 5) study diligently for a better future; (iii) She loves her
children deeply. To protect us from feeling inferior,
3.4. Theme 4: Stabilization of negative emotions and she hid the truth about the divorce. (Participant 3)
reduction of self-injury behaviors Inclusiveness has increased, feelings of rejection have
The majority of participants reported being able to view diminished, and willingness to accept has grown. Participants
disagreements with gratitude within the framework have learned to forgive their parents’ mistakes and embrace
of familial love, demonstrating improved cognitive their shortcomings and flaws, such as low educational
awareness. In addition, in resolving conflicts, their coping attainment, limited income, or overly controlling behavior.
strategies shifted from previous patterns of suppression “Is there any parent in the world who doesn’t make
and confrontation to more adaptive approaches, such as
seeking assistance and engaging in open communication. mistakes? Can we completely dismiss them because of
that?” (Participant 1)
These changes ultimately led to increased emotional “Even though they’ve hurt me, they’re the ones who
stability, along with a reduction in negative thoughts and gave me life and raised me. We’re bound by blood.”
self-harm behaviors.
(Participant 8)
Although my parents still insist that failing to get “My father has little education and even holds some
into a good high school means not attending a outdated beliefs. I can’t change him, but I’ve learned to
good university, finding a decent job, and leading adapt to him.” (Participant 7)
an exhausting life, I now understand their constant
nagging stems from parental anxiety about my future. A sense of familial warmth and confidence in the future
Consequently, I no longer react by shouting at them has emerged. By letting go of resentment or rejection
or retreating to my room in tears and self-harm. toward their parents, participants have been able to
Instead, I first allow them to express their concerns calmly integrate into family life and embrace its positive
fully before engaging in constructive communication. atmosphere. Some reported participating in family
(Participant 9) gatherings and enjoying outings with their parents, feeling
happy throughout these experiences, and expressing
3.5. Theme 5: Improvement and harmony in parent– optimism about future interactions. However, a small
child relationships number of participants shared lingering challenges:
Satisfaction scores and evaluations of parents improved, “I still occasionally recall the hurt my parents caused
with generally positive feedback. After undergoing me, and I hesitate to approach them. Hence, I keep my
psychotherapy centered on the SCGWRD concept, most distance – like avoiding sitting together during meals.”
participants demonstrated increased satisfaction and (Participant 6, Participant 11)
more positive evaluations of their parents compared to
before the intervention. They also described more frequent 4. Discussion
interactions and more harmonious relationships with their With society’s growing concern about mental health
parents. issues, NSSI has become an urgent public health problem
Past satisfaction score with mother: 40/100. due to its high prevalence and serious consequences
Evaluations: (i) She was short-tempered and easily among adolescents. 23,24 Parent–child conflict refers to
angered over minor issues. For example, she would a state of confrontation between parents and children
scold me harshly for not drinking soup during a meal; due to cognitive, emotional, behavioral, and attitudinal
(ii) She was passive-aggressive, often making sarcastic inconsistencies, which can lead to the internalization or
or veiled remarks. For instance, when I scored well externalization of certain behaviors. For example, this
on an exam, she would say, “Wow, you did so well!” may manifest as quarrels, disagreements, or even physical
but then compare me to someone with better grades: conflicts between parents and children. Moderate
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Volume 3 Issue 4 (2025) 58 doi: 10.36922/JCBP025090014